Archive for April, 2013

Peace, at last.

I did not realise how much of my grief was riding on the shared experiences we have had. You had a miscarriage abd four weeks later I did as well. For a very long time, I used the strength you showed to get through itTht hen today, I found out you and your husband recently saw the safe arrival of your son, a gull 7 years after your miscarriage.  I don’t know if you wewe unfortunate like I was to suffer any more losses, but I sure hope not. To know that you finally became a mother has seen a deep sense of peace settle over me in regards to my grief journey. 

I packed away all of the pices I have in my home into a box. They will stay there.

dare I say it, but I suspect I may be ready to completely move on. To put this chapter behind be. To embrace what the future holds, children or not.

thankyou N. welcome O. Be amazing. Like your mamma.





How can this so very true image have caused SO much grief in the “interwebz” world? I have seen some hideous comments made, including “how dare you post a photo of a dead baby” and ” you are having a pity party” and that WE are the ones who need to learn to take a joke….In our community, when we read of someone announcing a pregnancy early, prior to 12 weeks, we don’t immediately squeal and begin to buy baby clothes. We mentally and physically cross our fingerd and hope and pray like crazy that these people announcing a pregnancy on the first day of April do not EVER EVER EVER experience the loss of this newly announced pregnancy.
And then??
Then to have revealed that it was “just” a joke, after having messages of congratulations and well wishes from people like us just wanting them to be happy hurts like anything. It DAMN HURTS to have those wishes thrown back in our faces.
The picture is not made with the intent of telling people “NO! YOU CANNOT HAVE FUN EVER!”, it is merely asking people to think before they post. People have argued that “ok, so if we can’t have a joke about being pregnant, does that mean we can never post a picture of a meal we are eating or a new car, or a marriage, because there are people out there who will never ever be able to understand that?”
Thinking before we speak would solve a lot of problems!
For the record, the baby in the picture is very very alive, the picture is just sepia toned, and for the few people out there who thought we were just having a “pity party”, there were hundreds of people who merely told Carly “Thankyou for putting our feelings out there”.
I could not agree more with them. Thankyou Carly. ❤